The Advice My Father Gave Me
One thing I tend to do a lot when I'm dealing with things is write my feelings either in my diary, via twitter or sometimes on this blog. But I think sometimes all one needs to do is seek advice and comfort from either someone your extremely close to or for some God (someone spiritual). Now I've been dealing with a lot over the last 2 weeks, many highs and lows in different aspects of my life. But it wasn't until last night where I happened to run into my Dad (purely accidental) and we had a heart to heart about what I'd been feeling over the last few days so I thought I should share, as it may be useful for someone else to read.
Now my Dad is a very spiritual man and a firm believer in Christ. When I got a new job 2 months ago he was extremely happy for me as any proud Dad would, although during my time at this new job he kept insisting that I'd be getting other job offers, that I should wait and see. He was not aware that the job was a temp to perm role so I didn't understand that then, but I do now. The new job lasted merely 2 months and for reasons out of my control my temp contract could not be extended. I was distraught. I had no clue what I was going to do. But funny enough within a week of being out of work I literally found another job, in fact it seems like the perfect job which I start next week. The moment I told my Dad he did not seem surprised at all as he always used to say to me that another job was going to come my way.
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The main advice given to me had a lo to do with my love life. When things go wrong with certain men in my life I tend to cry and beg to God, but as a child of God one should not do such. It seems I am praying out of desire for things which should not be the case and at times those things I am praying for may not be what God has already written out for me. There are people that will enter my life, some will serve its purpose and then leave. If they should leave, I should not worry nor beg, as what will be will be.
I used to wonder why I used to fall in and out of friendships with certain people who I thought would be around for the long run. But I've learnt certain people need to leave in order for me to grow and vice versa. And when its time and if its meant to be these people will return and the friendship will have more meaning and be much stronger.
One thing I hate is when relationships/friendships end out of my control. Its like I can not handle anyone deciding to leave and walk out on me unless its on my terms. But I've been told by my Dad to grow up and allow certain things to happen good or bad, in order for better things to start happening in my life. He's not saying that I have bad people in my life but that there are many things which will be out of my control that just needs to happen whether I like it or not. He says I must be the opening door to someones blessing and not the pillar that is holding a person back from where they see themselves so at times separation is required in order for elevation (he did not use those words but you get the idea). It was hard hearing that and trying to understand what that meant. But when your in your feelings its difficult for one to hear what God is trying to tell you. It seems I may have lost my faith and beliefs in Gods word and that is not how my Dad raised me. We were taught to always be prayerful in good and bad times. To always keep Gods word safe in our hearts so that when things happen in our lives like a loss of a job, end of relationships or family issues arise, one can find peace and understanding rather than stay frustrated with God and lack understanding in why these things are happening.
There were moments with my Dad where he seemed disappointed in me. He hated the fact that it has to take certain bad moments in my life to happen before I draw closer to Gods word. I need to learn to lean on God on my own and not through others. Be thankful and grateful for all things good as well as bad. Rather than worry about the troubles of today I should have faith and excitement of what is being prepared for me and my future.
So I say on to you, who ever needs to hear this and was feeling the way I've been feeling these last 2 weeks. Stay strong in your faith. Never doubt what has already been planned out for you and your life. There are many things and people that will enter and leave your life but never fear nor be confused. What is yours shall be for you and nothing and no one will take that away from you. Do not worry about the job you didn't get that you so hoped for, the one that is truly meant for you were by you will feel fulfilled shall come your way. To the woman who had her heart broken by a man she thought would stick around forever, don't worry. If he is the one God will bring him back and if he does not return then it is not him, which is not a bad thing as someone better is coming your way at the time it is meant to happen. For now focus on yourself and strive to succeed in other aspects of your life. And to the person who keeps losing friends, don't worry as certain people need to leave in order for better ones to enter your life.
(quotes taken from @SpiritualWord on Instagram)
Now my Dad is a very spiritual man and a firm believer in Christ. When I got a new job 2 months ago he was extremely happy for me as any proud Dad would, although during my time at this new job he kept insisting that I'd be getting other job offers, that I should wait and see. He was not aware that the job was a temp to perm role so I didn't understand that then, but I do now. The new job lasted merely 2 months and for reasons out of my control my temp contract could not be extended. I was distraught. I had no clue what I was going to do. But funny enough within a week of being out of work I literally found another job, in fact it seems like the perfect job which I start next week. The moment I told my Dad he did not seem surprised at all as he always used to say to me that another job was going to come my way.
I used to wonder why I used to fall in and out of friendships with certain people who I thought would be around for the long run. But I've learnt certain people need to leave in order for me to grow and vice versa. And when its time and if its meant to be these people will return and the friendship will have more meaning and be much stronger.
One thing I hate is when relationships/friendships end out of my control. Its like I can not handle anyone deciding to leave and walk out on me unless its on my terms. But I've been told by my Dad to grow up and allow certain things to happen good or bad, in order for better things to start happening in my life. He's not saying that I have bad people in my life but that there are many things which will be out of my control that just needs to happen whether I like it or not. He says I must be the opening door to someones blessing and not the pillar that is holding a person back from where they see themselves so at times separation is required in order for elevation (he did not use those words but you get the idea). It was hard hearing that and trying to understand what that meant. But when your in your feelings its difficult for one to hear what God is trying to tell you. It seems I may have lost my faith and beliefs in Gods word and that is not how my Dad raised me. We were taught to always be prayerful in good and bad times. To always keep Gods word safe in our hearts so that when things happen in our lives like a loss of a job, end of relationships or family issues arise, one can find peace and understanding rather than stay frustrated with God and lack understanding in why these things are happening.
There were moments with my Dad where he seemed disappointed in me. He hated the fact that it has to take certain bad moments in my life to happen before I draw closer to Gods word. I need to learn to lean on God on my own and not through others. Be thankful and grateful for all things good as well as bad. Rather than worry about the troubles of today I should have faith and excitement of what is being prepared for me and my future.So I say on to you, who ever needs to hear this and was feeling the way I've been feeling these last 2 weeks. Stay strong in your faith. Never doubt what has already been planned out for you and your life. There are many things and people that will enter and leave your life but never fear nor be confused. What is yours shall be for you and nothing and no one will take that away from you. Do not worry about the job you didn't get that you so hoped for, the one that is truly meant for you were by you will feel fulfilled shall come your way. To the woman who had her heart broken by a man she thought would stick around forever, don't worry. If he is the one God will bring him back and if he does not return then it is not him, which is not a bad thing as someone better is coming your way at the time it is meant to happen. For now focus on yourself and strive to succeed in other aspects of your life. And to the person who keeps losing friends, don't worry as certain people need to leave in order for better ones to enter your life.
You know what Becky, I admire you after seeing this post. One thing I can encourage you on is, as children of God we will make mistakes, and there are things that we learn when it comes to God-- sometimes I find that I only pray to God when I need something and the way I had to fall on my knees and plead for forgiveness; it's not that we do it on purpose, but when problems and issues become so much.. the only person we think of it's God, and that's when we turn to him-- but God is a loving God and he knows our hearts (Not to use that as an excuse!) but as long as you acknowledge it and change it-- then it's fine.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to have a personal connection with God because you will find when times get hard-- and as you mentioned in your post you lose friends or relationships don't work out there is no one else to turn to BUT him, so why not always speak to him on a daily basis? Even if you have a great relationship and a lot of friends?
Thank you for sharing this post, and also stay strong! Everything that's happening in your life is God's plan for greater things to come.. x