Is Chivalry Really Dead?

Hey guys and girls. Hope your all well. Now I have a burning topic which I just need to finally address. No tea or shade but I just want to vent my disappointment in some (a rather small amount) of men these days which seem to have an issue with paying on a date, especially on the first date in which THEY have been the one to ask YOU out?!?

Lets be clear, I have no issue with paying for a man on a date or night out but its when it becomes regular or when they make it obvious that they had no intention of paying for you in the first place is what really tickles me. In fact let me give you some examples:

I once went on a date, a cheap and cheerful one might I add, to a dessert place in West End. Now this guy had been wanting to see me for the longest and I just didn't have much time until one evening I thought cool lets go out then. He picked the place and everything like its his treat on me, boy was I fooled. Now remember its a dessert place so the meal for both of us will be no more than lets say 15-25 pounds. Now we ordered, and of course I opt for the cheaper option cos I ain't trying to give the impression that I'm an expensive date. His meal was a little more pricey than mine was and he also ordered a shake while I ordered water (LOL). Now its time for the bill, I reach out for my purse (as I usually do) and I ask 'so how would you want to pay?' his response being "Lets go halves". Homeboy didn't even say 'Its cool hun I got this'. The bill was no more than 25 or so and to be fair his share of food/drinks cost more than mine. Like seriously he wants us to go halves. I'm like ok cool. And to end the story short I have not spoken to nor seen him since.

Another occasion or should I say occasions is going out with a guy to the movies. Now I'm smart enough to have a Cineworld card which gives me unlimited access to Cineworld cinemas at a small fee per month. So of course my ticket is covered. Its now food and drinks that I rarely get offered as to whether I would want something or not. One time I kid you not this guy bought himself some treats at the cinema didn't even ask if I wanted something (which i did of course), and I ended up buying MYSELF ice cream. Less than £3 it would have cost him and that alone was something he was not willing to pay for (COOL COOL). I mean my main thing is at least to offer. That shows me your some what of a gentleman and at the very least being polite.

Some guys seem to think by holding doors and my hand or saying please and thank you is what counts to being a true gentleman.....Nah homeslice, I need to know as a man you can take care of me. Or is this the wrong kind of thinking. Again I'm not saying its for a guy to ALWAYS pay for my meals but once in a while would be nice, not everyday pay for your own meal or go halves. The amount of times I see a guy shuffle when it comes to the bill or stay mute when the waiter asks 'so are you paying together'.

I'm literally laughing as I type this because I have so many experiences of men not wanting to pay. More times its when they make it obvious they don't wanna pay especially when THEY are the ones that's made you leave your house and at times traveled a distance to go out. And because I'm used to this kind of behaviour I have kind of  become accustom to regularly paying for myself as well as others without even realising. Its funny because now when I'm invited out by I guy I gotta make sure I got enough coins to cover me. And if I don't I say I'm busy or I ask straight up 'Is this on you?' (LOL)

I've noticed that this is not just only common with me, but my friend has been having the same problems when she goes on dates too. So I wonder is Chivalry dead, or is it the guys we seem to be attracting OR has society changed and its now Women expected to pay on dates out.